Ever hear women sit around and complain, “Men! They lie! They cheat! They’re slobs! And all they want is sex!”
Who can blame them? Evidence is all around. Husbands who lie about “feeding the roses,” cheat their friends in a game of penny poker and leave their shoes and socks next to the sofa. And, worst of all, guys who actually want to have sex with their wives. It’s every woman’s nightmare!
Really, isn’t it time to ditch these stereotypes? Just as some men denigrate women with blanket statements, so some women simplify men, reducing them to the lowest common denominator. Women often delight in delegating men to Neanderthal status – great apes with drooling mouths and drooping arms who are incapable of being civil or having anything but the crudest motivation for their behavior.
In my practice as a sex therapist, the negative myth that women most frequently nail men with is, “All they want is sex!” This has the effect of accusing the male half of the human race of having a peculiar affliction, when in reality their needs are normal. The woman who complains, conversely, is often someone who never wants intimacy. Is that normal? And, really, isn’t this a desire-discrepancy problem, not one gender being compared to the other as being purer, kinder and even more organized?
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