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 Some 39 million children have survived sexual abuse in America today. Statistics show that about 20 percent of victims are under 8 years old, while 50 percent are younger than age 12. Child sexual abuse can start with children as early as infancy. “Ninety percent of child sexual abuse happens at the hands of someone the child knows, and the adults in that child’s life have given access to the offender,” says Diane Cranley, founder and president of TAALK. Cranley points out that sexual offenders typically “groom adults before grooming a child.” How can you as a parent be aware? One indicator that your child may be at risk is a relationship with an adult who constantly engages in physical contact with children and who spends more time with children than adults. In order for an offender to build trust, the person may spoil a child with gifts and sneak the child special treats that parents wouldn’t normally allow. This results in the child trusting and befriending the predator. The best advice for parents is to be aware of those who are close to your child and family. Can you trust them? Do you notice any of the signs mentioned above?  “What is important is that you teach children how to make these assessments and decisions about right and wrong, because you can’t always be there to protect them,” Cranley says. “These regular conversations will also let the child know that this is no different than how to protect themselves when riding a bike.”As for the emotional and physical effect this type of abuse can have on a child, the most obvious way to tell if your child has been a victim is changes in behavior. Children who have been sexually abused will display signs of aggression toward friends and family, or they might distance themselves from them. Panic attacks, fear of specific places and people, loss of appetite, separation anxiety and sleep deprivation may be symptoms of child sexual abuse. Physical signs may include pain during urination, symptoms of urinary tract infections related to STDs, self-mutilation, stomach pains or headaches. Children may exhibit more promiscuous behavior and ask questions about human sexuality that may seem out of the ordinary. These startling statistics underscore how common sexual abuse is in children: > One in four girls under the age of 18 has been abused. > One in six boys under the age of 18 has been abused. > Thirty to 40 percent of children have been abused by family members. > Sixty percent of children are abused by someone the family personally knows and trusts. In 2007, the nonprofit organization TAALK was founded to provide an outlet so that adults and children may break the silence that tends to surround this topic. The organization offers a support system for victims and their families, while offering programs that involve child sexual-abuse prevention, resources, support groups and experts affiliated with the organization who regularly speak at schools and other venues. Cranley suggests the book “The Socially Skilled Child Molester,” by Carla Van Dam, Ph.D, which talks about the profile of a pedophile. Also, TAALK has published a guide, “7 Steps to Protecting Our Children.” For example, step five emphasizes the importance of not overreacting and remembering to offer support. “Sometimes there are no signs, which makes it very important for us to talk with children about sexual abuse on a regular basis, so they understand what it is and that it’s wrong,” says Cranley. “We must open up the lines of communication.” Ashley Eliot, is an editorial assistant for OC Family magazine. KEY TIPS TAALK’s 7 steps to protecting your child 1. Learn the facts and understand the risks. Focus on the reality of what the situation may be, and avoid the assumption of what it may not be. 2. Minimize opportunity. Lower the risk of your child being put in a one-on-one situation with an adult. 3. Talk about it. Always keep the lines of communication open. 4. Stay alert. Take notice and be aware of the signs of a potential problem. 5. Make a plan. Do your research. Know the resources you can turn to for help. 6. Act on suspicions. Your instincts can tell a lot, so take action rather than sit quietly. 7. Get involved. Show your support and volunteer in the prevention and education of child sexual abuse. |
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I wouldn't believe a word Cranley says.
| Comment at 4/9/2009 |
I believe that if we make an effort, any effort, we are becoming better. Cranley is doing what we are all afraid to say. I iadmire her and her willingness to help someone like me. Someone who lost hope in themself and in humanity. Thank you Cranley. I have a voice because of you. Thank you
| Comment at 4/10/2009 |
On the contrary, I believe Ms. Cranley speaks the truth. It's just that not many people want to talk about this horrific epidemic that could happen to anyone. It has to stop and it is up to parents, teachers and anyone who helps care for and love children.
| Comment at 4/21/2009 |
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