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Sunday, November 15, 2009
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Tuesday, December 15, 2009
Welcome to Camp 'Home For The Holidays'

Hey Mickey, Where's the Menorah?
My family and I are huge Disney fans. This is evidenced by our season passes and frequent trips to Disneyland after school and on weekends. We've spent countless happy, memorable days at Disneyland, often bringing along friends and family "virtually" for the ride.

But somehow we've never managed to get our act together and do the Holidays at Disney thing. Which is kind of shocking given the hype and our proclivity.

Naturally we were all very excited to go and see the lights and displays at Disneyland and California Adventure. We'd heard so much about the spectacle that we were willing to brave the dense holiday crowds to get a gander. And so, two nights before Thanksgiving we joked, "Cover me Mickey, we're going in!"

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The lights, the decor, were dazzling. Beyond. Over the top and blingarific. Just the way we'd expect from Disney. We oohed and we ahhed at the Christmas tree that seemed tall enough to touch the stars. The basketball sized ornaments that reflect the entire town square were a joy to behold. But something was clearly missing.

"Mommy," my 5 year old son asked. "Do you think Mickey has a menorah here somewhere?"

"Of course!" I answered, confidently. Too confidently, in retrospect. "I've got a special prize for the first kid that spies the menorah!"

We went on, deep into the park. Through New Orleans Square with its beautiful Mardi Gras and vintage themed decor. I marveled at the amount of detail on every single festively festooned lamppost. We fought our way through the crowds to get a glimpse of Small World. What a glimpse! The light show, the snow... Wow, wow, wow! The two hour line was too long for our youngest tots, but we still snapped pictures of the facade. If there was a menorah within, we weren't getting close and it would have to wait for YouTube *

Hours went by as we made our way through the rest of the park, expecting at any moment to discover a nook or a cranny with a decorated dreidel. Underwater by Nemo? On Autotopia? Someplace in Tomorrowland? Alas, we spied nothing. Not until we were sailing through Pirates of the Caribbean.

"Mommy! I found it! Woot! I found the menorah! What do I win!?" shouted my 12 yr old. The people sitting behind us looked startled and confused. They asked us if we'd found a hidden Mickey or something. I was too speechless to respond.

My daughter was technically correct. She HAD found a menorah. But it was hardly the image of holiday happiness we'd been anticipating. The eight branched candlelabra, considered the universal sign of hanukah, was overturned and broken in the window of a burning building. Yo ho, yo ho aside, the only party that came to mind with this image was a pogrom. A memory that's only a couple of generations old in my family, and hardly the one you'd expect to stumble across at the "Happiest Place on Earth".

Our search for another menorah became almost desperate after this ride. Something to replace the distasteful image lingering in our minds. Oh beloved Disney! How could you disappoint us so cruelly? 

I couldn't merely give up.  Back at home I searched Google and discovered a flickr photo of a menorah, lit in a window on main street. We pointedly returned a few days later to see it for ourselves. I was just too heartbroken to have my children's memory of their holiday at Disney be such a negative one.

Before searching for the menorah we'd seen online, I made sure to check in with Disney PR on Main Street. They told me the exact location of the one menorah in the park that was not concealed within a ride. You can find it above the jewelers. Once again my stomach sank. All I could think was, really? Really Disney?! Who came up with this plan? Goofy? This felt like stereotyping of the worst type. Adding insult to injury. But good thing we had the tip. It's easier to accidentally find Hidden Mickeys. The menorah is quite small, as is the window.

The Disney attendant on duty went on to happily tell me that they not only had a menorah for hanukah but there was also more Jewish holiday decor in the form of a mezuzah on the door of Dr Silverstein's office! This was just ignorant.  Mezuzahs have absolutely nothing to do with the holidays. They are a traditional Jewish way to bless a home or place of business. All year round.

I made sure to take my own picture of this needle-in-a-haystack menorah that took us so long to find and ultimately broke our hearts a little. I'd like to say it made us feel better to see it, but in some ways it made us feel worse. We've been relegated to one tiny little window where we're unlikely to be noticed. Are we supposed to feel welcomed by this compartmentalization? Certainly I'm not. I am both baffled and offended by this wisp of an effort. Then again,  it could have been worse.  The little menorah could have been over the bank or a lawyer's office, right? Ho ho ho!

 The fact of the matter is that there was more attention paid to any one of the hundreds of super-sized lamppost wreaths in the park, than to that single dollhouse worthy symbol of our winter holidays.

Just between us Mickey? You might want to get a menorah (and a Kwanza kinara or two) in a more prominent place. I'd lose the menorah in the burning building, though.   That's just in bad taste Mickey.  Dr. Silverstein would plotz!

Mickey, I'm not a hater. I desperately want to stay in love with Disney. It's been such a part of our lives. And our family celebrations. We have Disney dreidels and menorahs in our collection like these.  Ironically we couldn't find any Jewish holiday items to buy in the gift shops at Disneyland, even when we would have spent almost any amount just to make ourselves feel better.  That's how desperately we wished to be included in some small way in Disney's "Holiday Magic".

So at the very least, Mickey, stock the gift shop. Us non-Christmas celebrating people are willing to fork out for our holiday joy like the rest of the tourists, and you're missing out on some serious retail ops.

*Note: We've scoured multiple Holiday Small World videos for a glimpse of a menorah or a dreidel. If it's in there, we've yet to find it. That doesn't mean it's not there. We'd love to see your photos or footage if you photographed other-than-Christmas holiday decor at Disneyland.






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Reader Comments
Last year Disneyland invited mom bloggers to visit on Passover. When I explained that I'd love to attend but couldn't because it was a Family Holiday it was explained to me that their PR person was Jewish. Oh, and then they sent me a banner I could put on my site. There's nothing about Disneyland that is encouraging for me as a Jewish Mother. I'm sorry your kids were let down, frankly I'm not surprised. I'm sorry you were suckerpunched.
Jessica Gottlieb|Reply
BRILLIANT!!!!! I support and am saddened myself!! If we can help at all let us know!!
natalie|Reply
i'm not surprised. sadly.
melissa|Reply
At downtown disney near the world of disney there are 3 nice sized display showing all three big holidays. Wish I had a pic but never felt the need to take one.
Matt|Reply
I'd be with you if you'd passed a Mickey and Minnie in a nativity scene during your hunt for a menorah, but it sounds like they were doing typical commercial holiday decorations, not religious ones. I could be wrong, I wasn't there, but that's what I got from your description. As an atheist who had to listen to my five-year-old go on and on about God after a public school trip today to a Jewish Children's Museum, I'm finding it hard to sympathize.
Selfish Mom|Reply
Bummer. They could really do something fun with all the windows on main street! A giant menorah. Interesting about the passover invitation ON passover... but if the PR person was Jewish, then it's totally OK... HA!! Unreal!
kara-noel|Reply
OMG, we were there a few weeks ago and went on the Pirates ride -- and I saw the menorah in the burning building, on its side, and did like a double-take: I thought, it couldn't be a menorah like THAT, could it? But it was. Such bad taste. There was no toppled Xmas tree, for example...
Sarah Auerswald|Reply
Ridiculously ignorant on behalf of Disney? Yes. Shocking? No. At least I know where I won't be taking my kid for Hanukkah.
Aimee @ Ain't Yo Mama's Blog|Reply
Matt I do not even know what to say to you. I am not sure why your child was at a Jewish kids museum being at a public school. I am sure they had their reasons and if not you should speak to the school. With that said, non-religious or not CHRISTMAS is all over Disney and it is obvious they are not embarrassing any other holiday celebrations. Tis the season and get over it... but I still think children should not be caught up in grown up fighting and they should feel welcomed no matter what holiday they celebrate..
natalie|Reply
ooppsss.. that was embracing not embarrassing
natalie|Reply
That was my daughter at the Jewish Children's Museum today, not Matt's. I don't know why they were there either, and I don't really care that they went. When I was in public school back in the 70s we celebrated every holiday and religion we could get our hands on and nobody got offended. Listening to my daughter go on and on today about God was pretty annoying for me, and yet it didn't occur to me to get offended that someone was talking to her about their own religion without taking ours into account. So I really can't sympathize with making such a big deal out of nothing. I think it's easy to get offended if you want to be offended. The supposed menorah in Pirates of the Caribbean in one of those Disney Urban Legends that just won't die. I've never been on the new version of the ride, but if you look at any youtube video of the ride you can clearly see candelabrum - all with 7 candles - in other scenes in the ride. I don't know a single Jew who has a menorah with 7 candles, it wouldn't make sense. And while I've never seen it, I'll bet $100 Mickey dollars (if those still exist) that the overturned "menorah" is a seven-candle candelabra. Disney has had its share of PR nightmares in the past, but they simply wouldn't put an overturned menorah in a burning building. It's absurd. Christmas decorations are about as far from a celebration of the birth of Christ as foil wrapping paper, ribbon, and Santa Claus. I'm pretty sure there were no fir trees in Bethlehem.
Selfish Mom|Reply
sorry Matt, I am not used to the way names are on here. I guess to be honest I grew up with Anti Semitism everywhere in the mid 70'sin Arizona. I am not sure where you grew up but I was told to put jewish ornaments on the christmas tree OR ELSE! I was told to turn in a paper on Yom Kippur in high school or I would fail. All things my family had to fight for equality, and 9 out of 10 times it was a teacher who had a problem with someone being jewish and took it out on the 3 of us in a class. I am 100% supportive of Christmas celebrations and not expecting to hear hanukah songs etc.. and not being offended but Disneyland should be unique and embrace all festivities this time of year.
natalie|Reply
I think there should have been menorahs and kinaras (for Kwanzaa) up at Disneyland. Show children that all religions are respected by Disney. I'm surprised that jewish people that work for the Disney Parks didn't say anything.
Nancy Johnson Horn|Reply
1. We were not offended per se. We were saddened. We love Disney, usually. The term "Holidays" implies more than one holiday will be represented. Thus this was our expectation. Holiday(s) = us too! We had no expectation of anything other than Christmas in the "Christmas Fantasy" parade and were fine with that. If the entire thing was advertised as "Christmas at Disney" my kids would never have gotten their hopes up. 2. Above the Jeweler is offensive stereotyping. Ask any Jew 3. For the record: There are no hanukah ornaments. Or holly. Or wreaths. Or trees. Or jinglebells. Or Santas, reindeer, sleds, etc. Making a tree from blue and white tinsel does not make it a Hanukah tree. These are trappings of Christmas. Un-religious yes, but still specifically associated with Christmas. 4. Hanukah is not a religious holiday, despite the "mircale" story of a lamp burning for 8 days. It's more military in nature, and the story is like a battle legend. Menorahs are not holy items such as a crucifix or a torah. They are viewed as symbols of hope. Nor are dreidels holy. They are a toy associated with hanukah like a nutcracker is a toy associated with Christmas. These are no more "religious" than a Santa Sled and giant star bedecked tree. 5. It is definitely an eight branched candelabra overturned in the window. There are also three six branched ones scattered through the ride as well. Check out the wikipedia entry on Menorahs. They can be either 6 or 8 - the 8 branched one is more commonly associated with the Jewish holidays. We (four of us) rode the ride several times to confirm and to try and photo. The Menorah is overturned and broken, it has four branches up top, a center candle and four branches on the "down" side, one that is broken off. It's entirely possibly it was not meant this way but utterly predictable that it would be perceived this way. So why do it? 6. PS kids at Jewish Museum. Which one? Were they learning about the holocaust? What kind of museum is this, historical or religious? How was it advertised to you? And why/how did this lead to (inappropriate for your family) talk of God with your child? And most of all, how is this at all related to Disney? For the record my kids go to the Missions on public school trips too. Not an issue at all for us. It's in context. We're not asking for equal, we're asking for truth in advertising and a little sensitivity about negative stereotypes.
Ciaran|Reply
As an FYI a Menorah has 7 candles, 6 plus one shamash (helper) that's elevated, a Menorah is used weekly for Shabbat. A hanukkiah is what is used at hanukkah, it has 8 candles plus one shamash. When I think of broken menorahs I think of Kristalnacht, but I can imagine pograms too.
Jessica Gottlieb|Reply
I'm sorry that your family had such a negative experience. I am a big fan of Disney, but every company has areas that they need to work on. Hopefully, someone will read this; relevant changes will be made and your family experience will be better next year.
Kimberly/Mom in the City|Reply
Hi, there...I'm the person who took the photo of the Menorah (or Hanukkiah as I've now learned) on Main Street that the blogger found on Google. I am not Jewish, but I do have to admit that I find if a bit hilarious that they try to use the word "holiday" when Disneyland's "holiday" decor is pretty much exclusively Christmas. I am a big Disney fan and I do enjoy the decorations, but almost wish they'd just call a spade a spade and say "We're all about Christmas" OR they should make a concentrated effort to incorporate ALL holidays into the park (I'd prefer the latter, though). You might also be interested to know that I've been on the Holiday Time at Disneyland tour and it is also pretty much Christmas focused with the exception of stopping by Dr. Silverstein's door and being told about Mezuzahs which even I can tell you doesn't have anything specifically to do with Hanukkah...Yet, nothing about Hanukkah itself. Weird, huh?
Loren|Reply
My Jewish daughter showed me your blog post and thought I'd comment. I have no religious affiliation, considering myself "spiritual, not religious". I chose not to raise her within any religion. Instead, I tried to teach her an appreciation of all spirituality and to study any religions that interested her. She converted to Judaism and married a wonderful Jewish man. Disneyland holiday decor consists mainly of lights, and evergreen decorations (wreaths and "christmas" trees). These are originally NOT "religious" decor. If you insist on "religious" decor such as a menorah, then be prepared to see an uprising for baby Jesus in a stable and everything that goes with that. And I don't know what the Muslims do around this time of year but they may also insist on having whatever they want as well. Personally, I like the Disneyland decor the way it is because it is widely accepted by people from most religions (except the Christian fundamentalists, for reason I give you below), thereby causing as little friction as possible. Evergreens and lights (candles, yule logs, and bonfires) have been used in many countries to celebrate the winter solstice, on December 21-22, since before Christianity. That is the shortest day/longest night of the year. Pagan people celebrated "the return of the sun" or "return of the light" because it was important for their farming cycles, etc. Hence the use of candles and fires. Evergreens maintain their green leaves and symbolize long life and hardiness throughout the long winter. Candles and other light were used to symbolize the light of the sun which they looked forward to seeing more of again. It was the Emperor Constantine, a pagan convert to Christianity, who "took over" the pagan customs of celebrating winter solstice (known by many names, including Yule an Saturnalia) and transferred them to a new "Christian" holiday, 'Christmas". The History Channel has a very good show called "The Real Story of Christmas", which you might enjoy watching. Here is the link: http://www.history.com/content/christmas/the-real-story-of-christmas/home We may all have different ways to pray and observe religious holidays, but we all pray for the same things: health, happiness, prosperity, peace... We call this time of year the "holiday season", which means pretty much the same thing to all of us as well. It is a time for peace, joy, and good cheer - no matter what religion we belong to... These are all things I like about the holidays... AND why I like Disney too! Happy Holidays to you and yours!
Lourdes L|Reply
I am a big fan of Disney, being an annual pass holder for multiple years. I too have noticed the menorah in the window of the burning building, but guess what? It is there all year round. To say it is offensive to your religion is like someone being offended by the women being auctioned off because it depicts the sex trade. Disney Holidays does not have anything to do with the celebration of religions; the special decorations you have come to mock are up for viewing November 13 through the first if the new year. This means that Thansgiving, Christmas, and New Years Eve and Day witness the festiveness. Also, Christmas is celebrated by everyone, not only Christians. And it is the most celebrated holiday in the world. This is why there is a tree. Because, through all my years if being a Christian, a Christmas tree has never symbolized anything of my religion, rather the Nativity scene, or the passing out of offerings suh as gold, frankensence, and mur, has. While having a menorah wouldn't hurt, I don't see the pain it caused not finding one. But honestly, if the Jews get a menorah, the where is our Nativity scene ad little baby Jesus, and the North Star? Disney doesn't centralize itself around a religious holiday, it just merely decorates the parks in a festive way to support the meaning of the season. I think that Lourdes said it the best: If you want to make it a big deal, be prepared for other religions to fire back as well.
Pro-Disney Holidays|Reply
Ciaran, absolutely brilliant writing. There are a lot of Blumenfelds who write and who have been published. Still not sure if we are related but if we are you would be at the very top. My great-grandfather was a Hebrew poet and wrote a book called Garlands of Thought. Your writing reminds me of his mind. What a fantastic story. It could be turned into a children's book or animated film.
Victoria|Reply
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